Relationships

Eckhart Tolle developed the term "The Pain Body" which can be described in this way: 

Two people are drawn to and stay together if they have an identical or a very similar frequency

The Emotional Pain Body is a field made up of past painful, unresolved and stuck energy that can accumulate and grow in your auric field. Because the energy signature of the pain body is old pain and suffering, these energies cannot sustain themselves or grow by feeding from your Life Force Energy, Instead the pain body must feed from energy that resonates with and is very similar to its pain -  your negative thoughts and the painful reactions of other people.The way pain bodies work in relationships is that one person’s pain body will resonate with and trigger the other person’s pain body, so that both partners are unconsciously reacting and creating drama..

How then can someone transcend their pain body? 

Eckhart Tolle speaks of transcending the pain body by becoming present in a state of witness consciousness. Presence allows the stuck energy to flow and assists in releasing the old pain. The challenge is to become and remain present once the pain body is activated since the nature of the pain body is to keep you in a state of unconsciousness. To become present while the pain body is activated takes disciplined practice to master.

Michael Singer's book, The Untethered Soul speaks of this process as follows:

"There is a law that you will learn very early in the game because it is an unavoidable truth. You will learn it early, but you will fall many times while trying to adhere to it. The law is very straightforward: When your stuff gets hit, let go right then because it will be harder later. It won't be easier if you explore it or play with it, hoping to take the edge off. It won't be easier to think about it, talk about it, or try to release only part of it at a time. If you want to be free to the core of your being, you must let go right away because it will not be easier later." p.74-75 The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer


This concept is further explored as "shenpa" by Pema Chodron. a Buddhist nun and teacher at Gampo Abbey, a monastery on Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia:



Another way to transcend the pain body is through the intentional use of energy healing techniques (such as Tapas Acupressure Technique, or TAT) to dissolve the layers of the pain body. TAT and other psychological energy techniques can transmute and disengage the energy of painful and traumatic past experiences that have created the pain body. 

Tapas Fleming, L.Ac., developer of TAT (Tapas Acupressure Technique):

http://www.tatlife.com

Another quote from The Untehered Soul:
"Relationships are a great way to work with yourself. Imagine if you used relationships to get to know other people, rather than to satisfy what is blocked inside of you. If you're not trying to make people fit into your preconceived notions of what you like and dislike, you will find that relationships are not really that difficult. If you're not so busy judging and resisting people based on what is blocked inside of you, you will find that they are much easier to get along with--and so are you. Letting go of yourself is the simplest way to get closer to others." p.154 The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer


Another way for couples to work on their relationship is  
IMAGO THERAPY

Founders of Imago Therapy, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D. explain what Imago Therapy is and how to do it. You can learn more about Imago Therapy and Dialogue and ways to make your marriage or relationship even better at www.GettingTheLoveYouWant.com

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